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42. Is it ever OK for authors to review other authors? ~ The other lesson to be learned from author Cait Corrain's book cancellation
41. Jeannie Mai proves another reason to sign a prenup: infidelity clause ~ Why I agree that more women should have a significant financial penalty on men who cheat
40. Need to have items delivered from Best Buy? Here comes DoorDash ~ The 47-year-old corporation is the first national consumer electronics retailer available on the DoorDash marketplace
39. Jada Pinkett Smith's 'Worthy' is a Cinderella story written all wrong ~ SPOILER ALERTS! Everything is not Jada Pinkett Smith's fault, but she sure has a problem admitting when it is
38. Why do women have to say their male friends are gay to calm jealous boyfriends? ~ I'm never going to defend Sharon Palmer's gay accusation against Usher
37. The man, the nails, the polish ~ 'Menicures' won't stop anybody from catching those hands
36. The great date debate ~ Olive Garden, Red Lobster, Cheesecake Factory slander do not matter as much as genuine chemistry
35. Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin' with no makeup on ~ JP from 'Love Is Blind' should have used Drake's lyrics to avoid combative moment with Taylor
34. Can people recognize who their frenemies are? ~ From Shanquella Robinson to Gabe to Tyrese, why do people give their friends-turned-enemies so many chances?
33. 14 valuable lessons I learned representing myself in Small Claims Court ~ Yes, you can win your case pro se, but listen to your legal coach
32. Baby bonding: When friends fight ~ Childless women can bond with their friends' children, but what happens when the two adults bump heads?
31. 'Two Kisses in a Box': A Poem ~ Lincoln University of Missouri's Poetry Writing Workshop
30. 'Houseguests': A Poem ~ Lincoln University of Missouri's Poetry Writing Workshop
29. Is it safe to make security cameras your tech babysitters? ~ My memories of being a latchkey kid
28. Memories of Lahaina Hawaii ~ The Sugar Cane Train that was my intro to Lahaina in Maui
27. Humor is beer goggles for women ~ Why 'You People' makes some men so angry
26. If answering your calls in real time is mandatory, let's call it quits ~ The link between insecurity and emergencies
25. Weird Barbie won me over in the 'Barbie' movie ~ Childhood memories and mother-daughter arguments came flashing back while watching my childhood hobby
24. That time he spoke my love language ~ When my college crush proved he understood ‘Quality Time’
23. Want a tattoo? Wait until you’re 30 ~ What melanin-rich people need to know about tattoos, tattoo removal
22. Bridezillas and Groomzillas may or may not appear ... But should wedding insurance be purchased regardless?
21. Should you get wedding insurance to fight against fraud? ~ Rob Nuccio of WedSure: 'Change of Heart' wedding insurance, insurance fraud
20. Even if allergic to latex, there are other condom options ~ Avoid the excuses, stock up for safe sex
19. Should graduation celebrating be banned? ~ The Philadelphia High School for Girls versus my 8th grade graduation
18. Marriage and money: When should women talk about it? ~ Best practices for women discussing marriage while dating, retirement planning
17. Erotica fiction will never be my cup of tea ~ And it took a Judy Blume book special for me to finally narrow down why
16. I need to talk to my weed guy ~ Because I never won the Olympics like Tara Davis-Woodhall or Sha’Carri Richardson
15. When did men twerking become gay? ~ And other problems I have with the Fun Police for men
14. ‘R&B Money’ podcast brings back my fangirl days of Immature ~ The podcast I didn’t know I needed to show respect to R&B legends
13. Respectfully, you must be really bad at sex ~ How did this father equate tampons to penetration?
12. Blueface and Chrisean Rock are the car crash I won’t look away from ~ My own volatile relationships keep making me hope Chrisean walks away
11. Chris Rock: Women-hating men will never understand Will Smith ~ Why ‘Selective Outrage’ further confirms Chris Rock is bitter about women
10. Men versus women: Why do men hate single-women songs so much? ~ Silence in marriage, celebration of singles
9. If you enjoy firing people, please don’t work in HR ~ “Roy’s Job Fair” brought up two types of HR people —only one of which we need more of
8. Does heartbreak really feel like this? ~ The one relationship story my father was tickled by
7. Is outing a cheater on social media worth it? ~ “Love Is Blind”: Why are these TikTok girls getting 15 minutes of fame off S.K.?
6. Is it OK for your mom to be your wingwoman? ~ Erykah Badu’s thirst trap post with her daughter: Yay or nay?
5. Be grateful for the company that fired you ~ The nightmare for-profit company that reduced clothing waste and wasted my time
4. Fighting over a man? Hard pass ~ The Cardi B logic I agreed with in my 20s but not beyond
3. 24 free fitness videos to get you active indoors ~ Creating a social isolation exercise video playlist
2. Why single people need a will, too ~ Don’t blow off writing a will — even if you’re childless
1. His friend died of AIDS, but he still believes AIDS isn’t real ~ Why contraception talks should happen more than sex
41. Jeannie Mai proves another reason to sign a prenup: infidelity clause ~ Why I agree that more women should have a significant financial penalty on men who cheat
40. Need to have items delivered from Best Buy? Here comes DoorDash ~ The 47-year-old corporation is the first national consumer electronics retailer available on the DoorDash marketplace
39. Jada Pinkett Smith's 'Worthy' is a Cinderella story written all wrong ~ SPOILER ALERTS! Everything is not Jada Pinkett Smith's fault, but she sure has a problem admitting when it is
38. Why do women have to say their male friends are gay to calm jealous boyfriends? ~ I'm never going to defend Sharon Palmer's gay accusation against Usher
37. The man, the nails, the polish ~ 'Menicures' won't stop anybody from catching those hands
36. The great date debate ~ Olive Garden, Red Lobster, Cheesecake Factory slander do not matter as much as genuine chemistry
35. Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin' with no makeup on ~ JP from 'Love Is Blind' should have used Drake's lyrics to avoid combative moment with Taylor
34. Can people recognize who their frenemies are? ~ From Shanquella Robinson to Gabe to Tyrese, why do people give their friends-turned-enemies so many chances?
33. 14 valuable lessons I learned representing myself in Small Claims Court ~ Yes, you can win your case pro se, but listen to your legal coach
32. Baby bonding: When friends fight ~ Childless women can bond with their friends' children, but what happens when the two adults bump heads?
31. 'Two Kisses in a Box': A Poem ~ Lincoln University of Missouri's Poetry Writing Workshop
30. 'Houseguests': A Poem ~ Lincoln University of Missouri's Poetry Writing Workshop
29. Is it safe to make security cameras your tech babysitters? ~ My memories of being a latchkey kid
28. Memories of Lahaina Hawaii ~ The Sugar Cane Train that was my intro to Lahaina in Maui
27. Humor is beer goggles for women ~ Why 'You People' makes some men so angry
26. If answering your calls in real time is mandatory, let's call it quits ~ The link between insecurity and emergencies
25. Weird Barbie won me over in the 'Barbie' movie ~ Childhood memories and mother-daughter arguments came flashing back while watching my childhood hobby
24. That time he spoke my love language ~ When my college crush proved he understood ‘Quality Time’
23. Want a tattoo? Wait until you’re 30 ~ What melanin-rich people need to know about tattoos, tattoo removal
22. Bridezillas and Groomzillas may or may not appear ... But should wedding insurance be purchased regardless?
21. Should you get wedding insurance to fight against fraud? ~ Rob Nuccio of WedSure: 'Change of Heart' wedding insurance, insurance fraud
20. Even if allergic to latex, there are other condom options ~ Avoid the excuses, stock up for safe sex
19. Should graduation celebrating be banned? ~ The Philadelphia High School for Girls versus my 8th grade graduation
18. Marriage and money: When should women talk about it? ~ Best practices for women discussing marriage while dating, retirement planning
17. Erotica fiction will never be my cup of tea ~ And it took a Judy Blume book special for me to finally narrow down why
16. I need to talk to my weed guy ~ Because I never won the Olympics like Tara Davis-Woodhall or Sha’Carri Richardson
15. When did men twerking become gay? ~ And other problems I have with the Fun Police for men
14. ‘R&B Money’ podcast brings back my fangirl days of Immature ~ The podcast I didn’t know I needed to show respect to R&B legends
13. Respectfully, you must be really bad at sex ~ How did this father equate tampons to penetration?
12. Blueface and Chrisean Rock are the car crash I won’t look away from ~ My own volatile relationships keep making me hope Chrisean walks away
11. Chris Rock: Women-hating men will never understand Will Smith ~ Why ‘Selective Outrage’ further confirms Chris Rock is bitter about women
10. Men versus women: Why do men hate single-women songs so much? ~ Silence in marriage, celebration of singles
9. If you enjoy firing people, please don’t work in HR ~ “Roy’s Job Fair” brought up two types of HR people —only one of which we need more of
8. Does heartbreak really feel like this? ~ The one relationship story my father was tickled by
7. Is outing a cheater on social media worth it? ~ “Love Is Blind”: Why are these TikTok girls getting 15 minutes of fame off S.K.?
6. Is it OK for your mom to be your wingwoman? ~ Erykah Badu’s thirst trap post with her daughter: Yay or nay?
5. Be grateful for the company that fired you ~ The nightmare for-profit company that reduced clothing waste and wasted my time
4. Fighting over a man? Hard pass ~ The Cardi B logic I agreed with in my 20s but not beyond
3. 24 free fitness videos to get you active indoors ~ Creating a social isolation exercise video playlist
2. Why single people need a will, too ~ Don’t blow off writing a will — even if you’re childless
1. His friend died of AIDS, but he still believes AIDS isn’t real ~ Why contraception talks should happen more than sex