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24. Election Day: Here comes the judge … you don’t know ~ Don’t treat judge votes like the Scantron multiple choice test you didn’t study for
23. The train ride that made me decide tourists aren’t so bad after all ~ Dodging all tourists on my Amtrak trip to D.C.
22. The accidental jazz fan ~ The mental health benefits of music therapy
21. Birthday plan: Hiding if Biden doesn’t win ~ No gifts needed, just don’t want my 39th birthday to be like 2016 Election Day
20. ‘I May Destroy You’ takes on a holistic look at sexual assault, rape, relationships ~ Biagio and the passport scene: He was 100% right
19. His response to Beyonce and TLC tells you what he thinks of women ~ Your music playlist can help reveal his stance on feminism
18. Parents, teach your sons how to approach women ~ Personal space and verbal communication will get men so much further with women
17. I’ll take the handyman over the man in the suit ~ The things women in their 30s find sexy that may not happen in their 20s
16. If you can buy a value meal, you can buy new condoms ~ Unofficial sex-ed course: Let’s settle these condom myths here and now
15. Weddings have gotten cooler in 2020 ~ Creativity and activism are top-notch in the COVID-19 world
14. What I learned from joining 17 online dating sites ~ It’s not always worth paying for, but dating sites teach you about your own hangups
13. Can men and women truly be platonic friends? ~ While my immediate answer is ‘yes,’ attraction level is the barrier
12. TeaMarrr’s ‘Kinda Love’ proves even Build a Man won’t make women happy ~ Yet another reason clingy partners are awful
11. The failed friend: Can they be trusted as a work reference? ~ Why I’ll never agree with Molly’s side of the ‘Insecure’ recommendation debate
10. We know about Ophiuchus, so stop blaming your zodiac sign for everything ~ Astrology is fun but don’t avoid dating someone b/c of it
9. Saying ‘I miss you’ without saying it ~ How a jar of coins and 50 questions became a familial lesson
8. Domestic violence + social isolation = Mind-numbing combination ~ Helping abused friends seek help during COVID-19 outbreak
7. Everyone needs one ‘happy’ friend ~ How a college friend proved to me that birds of a feather do not have to flock together
6. A boy’s experience from the #MeTooMovement ~ How a childhood friend taught me about sexual harassment, from a male’s point of view
5. To the man who stood me up, thank you! ~ R. Kelly and the problematic mindset of 'consenting' teens dating older men
4. A Bernie Bro told me I was 50 years old ~ Unless you want Trump for another four years, give someone else a chance
3. Write your photo memories down ~ When photos are lost but journal memories stick around
2. The one thing teachers cannot teach — earning trust from their students ~ Why my Creative Writing teacher became my liaison in a sexual harassment incident
1. Five people who made me embrace my virginity ~ Why Netflix’s ‘Big Mouth’ is awkward and glorious for teens to adults
23. The train ride that made me decide tourists aren’t so bad after all ~ Dodging all tourists on my Amtrak trip to D.C.
22. The accidental jazz fan ~ The mental health benefits of music therapy
21. Birthday plan: Hiding if Biden doesn’t win ~ No gifts needed, just don’t want my 39th birthday to be like 2016 Election Day
20. ‘I May Destroy You’ takes on a holistic look at sexual assault, rape, relationships ~ Biagio and the passport scene: He was 100% right
19. His response to Beyonce and TLC tells you what he thinks of women ~ Your music playlist can help reveal his stance on feminism
18. Parents, teach your sons how to approach women ~ Personal space and verbal communication will get men so much further with women
17. I’ll take the handyman over the man in the suit ~ The things women in their 30s find sexy that may not happen in their 20s
16. If you can buy a value meal, you can buy new condoms ~ Unofficial sex-ed course: Let’s settle these condom myths here and now
15. Weddings have gotten cooler in 2020 ~ Creativity and activism are top-notch in the COVID-19 world
14. What I learned from joining 17 online dating sites ~ It’s not always worth paying for, but dating sites teach you about your own hangups
13. Can men and women truly be platonic friends? ~ While my immediate answer is ‘yes,’ attraction level is the barrier
12. TeaMarrr’s ‘Kinda Love’ proves even Build a Man won’t make women happy ~ Yet another reason clingy partners are awful
11. The failed friend: Can they be trusted as a work reference? ~ Why I’ll never agree with Molly’s side of the ‘Insecure’ recommendation debate
10. We know about Ophiuchus, so stop blaming your zodiac sign for everything ~ Astrology is fun but don’t avoid dating someone b/c of it
9. Saying ‘I miss you’ without saying it ~ How a jar of coins and 50 questions became a familial lesson
8. Domestic violence + social isolation = Mind-numbing combination ~ Helping abused friends seek help during COVID-19 outbreak
7. Everyone needs one ‘happy’ friend ~ How a college friend proved to me that birds of a feather do not have to flock together
6. A boy’s experience from the #MeTooMovement ~ How a childhood friend taught me about sexual harassment, from a male’s point of view
5. To the man who stood me up, thank you! ~ R. Kelly and the problematic mindset of 'consenting' teens dating older men
4. A Bernie Bro told me I was 50 years old ~ Unless you want Trump for another four years, give someone else a chance
3. Write your photo memories down ~ When photos are lost but journal memories stick around
2. The one thing teachers cannot teach — earning trust from their students ~ Why my Creative Writing teacher became my liaison in a sexual harassment incident
1. Five people who made me embrace my virginity ~ Why Netflix’s ‘Big Mouth’ is awkward and glorious for teens to adults
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