Plenty to smile about these past couple of weeks so let's get this thing going!

1. Watching 'The Marvin Gaye Story: Don't Talk About My Father Because God Is My Friend': I've said pretty much all I can say in this blog post, but I was talking to my mother today who said, "I'd go see that again." My response, "I knew I wasn't the only one." It was that fun to see.

2. My great great aunt at my cousin's wedding: Everyone was a little concerned about whether my great great aunt would make it to my cousin's wedding. She's 100 and, although still spunky, people are starting to get more worried. I knew my aunt really wanted to be there so it was cool to see photos of her in attendance. How often do we have centenarian relatives who are around for special events?

3. Hanging out with Mom on her __th birthday: She probably won't care if I publish her age but just in case. It was fun hanging out with her to attend the Marvin Gaye play and have a cooked meal ready for her to eat (cabbage, hot water cornbread, iced tea). She enjoyed it, too.

 
 
I'm a huge Marvin Gaye fan so when I saw a flyer of Marvin Gaye staring at me from my great great aunt's cocktail table, I snatched it up quickly. I'd been brainstorming on something fun to do for my mother's birthday on July 18 and I got my love of Marvin Gaye (although I think I've upped her on super fan) from my parents. So I bought tickets to this play the very same night. I wasn't really sure what it would be about (outside of the obvious) but if Marvin Gaye is involved, I'm there! I already own all of his hits via CDs; "The Real Thing" DVD; made him my first choice for a Black Music Month series on Yahoo!; and had plenty to say about Tammi Terrell on "Unsung." On my desk at work and on a wall at home I have the Ebony "Black Cool" cover issue with Marvin Gaye. There is no R&B artist I like as much as Marvin Gaye even though he died when I was 2 1/2 years old.

With that said, I was a little concerned about who would play his part. I've always rooted for Jesse L. Martin because he reminds me of Marvin Gaye, but the movie talk keeps coming and going. This play was as close as I was going to get to bringing him to life again. It wasn't just about the acting. I was wondering who could possibly pull off singing a Marvin Gaye song (I have the same skepticism whenever someone tries to sing Michael Jackson, and only two artists have impressed me so far -- Chris Brown's breakdown 2010 BET Awards performance and the outstanding cover from Tahj Mowry). When you're playing a legend, you have to be immaculate. Black Ensemble actor Rashawn Thompson was indeed!

 
 
For someone who keeps losing, Jennifer Hudson sure is winning (and not the Charlie Sheen way).

She lost the opportunity to sing back-up for Barry Manilow but later worked with him as a contestant on "American Idol" singing "Weekend in New England." She lost "American Idol" but gained a Grammy for a later single. She lost weight and gained better health. She turned down a role in "Precious" and gained an Oscar award for her performance in "Dreamgirls." She turned down the "sex kitten" ideas for her music video "No One's Gonna Love You" but was still sexy enough for reality show contest and wrestler David Otunga to propose to her.

She lost some support from females who ranted on Twitter about her weight loss but gained support from male followers who tweeted comments like "Why can't you leave her alone?" and "I think what Jennifer has done is terrific. She looks great."

In "I Got This," J-Hud talks about what it was like growing up as a singer in a group who was more focused on looks than talent. She confirms that she's always been confident in her appearance — something her real fans have always known — but weight loss isn't new to her.


 
 
I'm down to the last three pages in my journal, and I went digging around trying to find another one. That's when I realized I'd have to buy another journal . . . from somewhere else. For some of you, that's no big deal. But I've spent ten straight years buying journals from Border's, especially in the entrance way where the cookbooks used to be. Actually I think it may be longer than that but I'm counting from the time I worked at Border's Books, Music & Cafe on the Magnificent Mile my junior year of college. The discount didn't even matter. All of the access to books and seeing what everybody else was reading was what did it for me. Plus, there were a select few co-workers who I just loved to hang out with and still have fond memories of to this day.
 
 
The reason I liked doing the "Five things I'm digging right now" was because it forced me to find the "bright side" of something. I need to do that more often and thought that was a cool way of doing it (original idea courtesy of Andy Cohen). So in the same spirit of it and since I'm done with that for 2011, I'm going to do a list of 365 things I've been digging all year. They're not in order, just the first things that pop into my head that I liked the entire year. (I started today as of 2:30 p.m. I finished on 12/31/11 at 10:38 p.m., in between running errands. HAPPY (almost) NEW YEAR!)

BOOKS
1. "The John Carlos Story" by John Carlos
2. "Is Marriage for White People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone" by Ralph Richard Banks
3. "The Vampire Diaries" (Stefan's Diaries only)
4. "There Are No Children Here: The Story of Two Boys Growing Up in The Other America" by Alex Kotlowitz
5. "The Conversation" by Hill Harper
6. "Michelle Obama: The First Lady in Photographs" by Deborah Willis and Emily Bernard
7. "Change for a Twenty" (I genuinely enjoy my own books)
8. "Round Trip" (I've said repeatedly it's better than "Change for a Twenty")
9. "Love Your Life" by The Oprah Magazine

CHICAGO (SURROUNDING AREA)
1. Looking out the window on the #147 CTA bus at Lake Michigan
2. Walking the four-mile trail at Skokie Northshore Channel
3. Walking the two-mile trail at Lincolnwood Channel Runne Park
4. Quench! restaurant on 79th (Pretty inside with a seating area)
5. Chi Tung
6. Chicago Public Library
7. The New 400 Theater
8. RCN (cable)

EYE CANDY
1. Ian Somerhalder
2. Taylor Lautner (Facial hair compliments him; his athleticism makes him breathtaking)
3. Idris Elba (No matter how many times "Daddy's Little Girls" comes on, I watch it)
4. T.I.
5. Chris Brown (He's growing up to be really handsome)
6. Morris Chestnut
7. Justin Timberlake
8. Brad Paisley (Dated a guy who looked exactly like a light-skinned black version of him; started heavily listening to country music from November to December)
9. Paul Walker
10. Alex Meraz (very good-looking in person)
11. Ian Ziering (Didn't pay much attention to him on "90210" but when I saw him at Comic Con last year I was so surprised at how gorgeous he is. Age has done him well!)
12. Trey Songz (Super friendly and as attractive in person as he is on his videos)
13. Joseph Morgan (Klaus from "The Vampire Diaries")
14. The guy who lost his balance on the Red Line and fell on me (woke me RIGHT up, and his outfit was impeccable; I couldn't stop checking him out)
15. Drake
16. Richard Gere (He looks better with age, don't know how he does it)
17. Tone Kapone (Don't listen to the radio much but I saw him at the 2012 Real Men Cook and the Sprite StepOff a couple years ago. He's really cute and I never knew what he looked like before.)
18. Q-Tip
19. Evan Ross
20. Obie Trice (He's underrated in the hip-hop game and my gawd, THOSE LIPS! Every video I see with him in it, I look at his lips 75% of the time. He's kiss-worthy.)

FASHION
1. Multi-colored shell bracelet from Queen Ka'ahumanu Center in Maui
2. Ralph Lauren Polo Jeans Co. orange fleece
3. Light yellow zip-up sweater
4. Gray suede/sweater heel boots
5. Brown suede/sweater heel boots
6. Black sweater flat boots
7. Black cape with gray lining
8. Baby blue top with brown afro woman silhouette
9. Multi-brown shades wooden bracelet from Maui
10. Black hematite bracelet from The African Store (located in Ford City)
11. Kohl's shopping (When there's a coupon, I never leave empty handed.)
12. NY & CO shopping (Sale or not, I never leave empty handed.)

FOOD
1. Archer Farms salt and vinegar chips
2. Thai tofu fried rice from China Hut
3. Kona Hawaiian Blend Micro-Roasted Coffee (drank it every morning)
4. Gardein stuffed turk'y
5. Gardein Mandarin orange crispy chick'n
6. Chocolate martinis at Olive Garden
7. Salad dressing from Olive Garden
8. Mushroom ravioli from Olive Garden
9. Fresh bread from Olive Garden
10. Water with a splash of lemon juice
11. Avocado slices with tomato slices
12. Tortilla chips
13. Granola, fruit and yogurt plate from IHOP
14. Hot water cornbread
15. Black eyed peas (vegetarian)
16. Collard greens (vegetarian)
17. Macaroni and cheese (my mother's)
18. Dried apricots
19. Archer Farms dark chocolate cocoa mix
20. Open Nature's Dark Chocolate Hazelnut Heaven (granola mix)
21. Green tea
22. Brown tea with lemon juice and honey
23. Grapefruit juice
24. Grapefruits
25. Red apples
26. Strawberries
27. Bananas
28. Strawberry banana smoothies
29. McDonald's iced coffee (light ice, light sugar)
30. McDonald's Filet o' Fish (the only fish I can handle eating for Omega 3)
31. Starbucks hot chocolate
32. Argo Tea iced coffee
33. Corn on the cob
34. Mashed potatoes from Ruby Tuesday's
35. Simply Asia Spring Noodles bowl
36. Watermelon
37. Green grapes
38. Red grapes

FRAGRANCES
1. Fergie's "Outspoken"
2. Lady Speed Stick "Fresh Infusions"
3. Cool Water
4. Victoria's Secret "Heavenly" (original fragrance)

HAIR
1. Vitale Olive Oil relaxer
2. Parnevu leave-in conditioner
3. Silk wrap caps
4. Pantene shampoo for women of color
5. Pantene conditioner for women of color
6. Distinctly Basics by Rachel Rose black ponytail holders
7. My haircut from Donte's on 9/17/2011 (thanks Francine!)

HEALTH
1. Doing Beyonce's "Let's Move" routine for 30 days
2. Swimming laps in the Maui Seaside Hotel pool
3. Renewing my membership and working out at Bally Total Fitness (now L.A. Fitness)
4. The results from my yearly physical (everything is tip-top, minus weight)
5. Logging at least four workouts per week on TeamBeachBody
6. Julie's Health Club blogs
7. Chicago Tribune's Health page
8. LA Times Booster Shots
9. Updating @BlackHealthNews on Twitter
10. "Mistletoe may help kiss away some ills" article (fascinating because I only knot about it for kissing)
11. "Muscling past myths" (It forces me to get up more at work)

HOME APPLIANCES
1. Breville BEW600XL Hot Wok
2. Brother MFC-440CN multi-printer
3. Insignia 26" LCD TV 720P
4. Full-size bed
5. All 18 pillows on my bed
6. Labrador Retriever comforter with pillows on my bed

HOME DECOR
1. Looking at Halloween decorations
2. Black couple embracing and kissing (painting above my bed)
3. Ebony cover of Marvin Gaye about "black cool"
4. N'Digo cover of Pres. Barack Obama (Nov. 13-2008)
5. Mos Def photograph of him sticking out his tongue while in a car driver's seat
6. Wall photograph jewelry box

MEMORIES
1. Watching my 99-year-old Aunt Marguerite open her Christmas photo calendar
2. Solo travel to Maui to do what I wanted to do 100% of the time
3. Spa day in Maui (pedicure, manicure, head/back/shoulder/foot massage)
4. Going to Chi Tung with Grandad
5. Getting the surprise fruit basket on Christmas Eve delivered from my godfather
6. Having my mother home this Christmas, healthy and happy
7. Posing for photograph on the porch with Faith nuzzling my chin
8. Posing for photograph on the porch with Faith "smiling" and leaning by my face
9. Crying laughing about the health club story with Darcel
10. Kendell calling me up at work to invite me to his high school graduation
11. Watching Kendell walk across the stage for graduation (super proud of him)
12. Hanging with Mom, Dad and Grandad at Real Men Cook for Father's Day
13. Going to the midnight release of "Twilight: Breaking Dawn" with my mom
14. Walking Faith (I do it 99% of the time when I'm at my parents' house)
15. Cracking jokes and chatting about entertainment with Yonnie and Kendell
16. Seeing what's new and strange in the world of Crosley (sp?)
17. Chit-chatting with Mom in Olive Garden
18. Hanging with Mom at Ruby Tuesday's and checking out our forgetful waiter
19. Photograph of my mother and my godfather trying to look hip-hop (LMAO)
20. Close-up photograph of Grandad and I at Real Men Cook
21. Photograph of my mother and I on my 29th birthday with her leaning on me
22. Seeing my op/ed tattoo piece on page 2 of the Chicago Tribune
23. Posing for a bunch of family photos with my brother, mother, grandfather and father on Thanksgiving 2011
24. Getting a 365-day dog calendar from my mother, who knows I really want a dog
25. Mild flirting at the health club (may not amount to anything but it was inspiration to work out when I first joined)
26. Clearing snow away with a bucket because I don't own a shovel (my grandfather loves this story)
27. Working from home for two days after Feb. 2, 2011 snowstorm
28. My grandfather and father dancing in front of a crowd at Real Men Cook 2011
29. Fifth tattoo, fourth cover-up, love my roses (thanks Bobby Sax!)
30. Dragging Fernie around to take the holiday photo for the Chicago Tribune
31. Xephon adding me as a Facebook friend (very flattered by that)
32. Dad calling me up to tell me how he wouldn't participate in Earth Hour
33. Me taking Dad's call (#32) as an invitation to bumrush their house and unplug everything; he and I talked for an hour and a half in the dark
34. Going through my letter box, reading all the letters and cards I got from family and friends while I was in college

MOVIES
1. "Hachi"
2. "Eight Below"
3. "No Strings Attached"
4. "Friends With Benefits"
5. "Always Outnumbered, Always Outgunned"
6. "Tongue Untied" Wanda Sykes comedy
7. "Higher Learning"
8. "Daddy's Little Girls"
9. "Something New"
10. "10 Things I Hate About You"
11. "New Moon"
12. "Twilight"
13: "The Twilight Saga: Eclipse"
14. "Sleepers"
15. "The Client"
16. "Runaway Bride"
17. "Iron Man"
18. "Iron Man 2"
19. "Transformers"
20. "Jumping the Broom"
21. "Never Say Never" (The shoveling scene is my favorite; Justin Bieber is eye candy but I just felt too much like a cougar putting him there until he's legal)
22. "Happy New Year, Charlie Brown"
23. "Losers"
24. "Gran Torino"
25. "Beats, Rhymes & Life: The Travels of A Tribe Called Quest"

MUSIC (singles and artists)
1. "Prototype" by Andre 3000
2. "Cockiness" by Rihanna
3. Rihanna's "Loud" CD
4. "The Noose" by Tech N9Ne
5. The "99 Problems" remix in the movie "No Strings Attached"
6. Mos Def (everything)
7. "In the Morning" by Drake and J. Cole
8. "Can't Get Enough" by J. Cole
9. "5 o' clock" by T-Pain
10. "Nuthin'" by T-Pain
11. "Default Picture" by T-Pain
12. "Momma Told Me" by Crystal Waters
13. "Pretty Little Heart" by Robin Thicke
14. "Sexy and I Know It" by LMFAO
15. "Birthday Cake" by Rihanna
16. "Take Care" by Drake
17. "Stay" by Tyrese
18. "Syllables" by Eminem, Jay-Z, 50 Cent
19. Obie Trice (everything)
20. Crystal Waters (everything)
21. Chris Brown (everything)
22. Rihanna (everything)
23. "Love Calls" by Kem
24. "I Can't Stop Loving You" by Kem
25. "I Like It" by Debarge family
26. "Perfect Day" by Jim Jones
27. "Should've Kissed You" by Chris Brown
28. "Dancing in the Dark" by Dev
29. "Otis" by Jay-Z and Kanye West
30. "Marry You" by Bruno Mars
31. "Someone to Love Me" by Mary J. Blige, Diddy
32. "All This Love" by Debarge
33. "Love Me in a Special Way" by Debarge
34. "Say Something" by Timbaland
35. Drake (everything)
36. "Complicated" by Robin Thicke
37. "Lost Without You" by Robin Thicke
38. "Pretty Young Thing" by Michael Jackson
39. "Strangers in Moscow" by Michael Jackson
40. "I'm Only Human" by Luther Vandross
41. "Love Her Like She's Leavin'" by Brad Paisley
42. "Somethin' 'Bout a Truck" by Kip Moore
43. Afroflow (everything)
44. "Woo" by Erykah Badu
45. "Bag Lady" by Erykah Badu (Dr. Dre remix)
46. Big Daddy Kane (everything)
47. "Got My Country On" by Chris Cagle
48. "Don't Worry, Be Happy" by Bobby McFerrin
49. "Like We Never Said Goodbye" by Clay Walker
50. "Better Than I Used to Be" by Tim McGraw
51. "Radio" by Musiq Soulchild
52. "Smack That" by Akon
53. "Back to Life" by Andrea Lewis
54. "Run the World" by Beyonce
55. "Motivation" by Kelly Rowland
56. "Deuces" by Chris Brown
57. "Look at Me Now" by Chris Brown
58. "Fallin' Down" by Chris Brown
59. "Cruisin'" by D'Angelo
60. "Sergeant Louise" by Donnell Jones
61. "Marvin's Room" by Drake
62. "Doing it Wrong" by Drake
63. "Show Me a Good Time" by Drake
64. "Find Your Love" by Drake
65. "Mahogany" by Eric B. and Rakim
66. "Head to Toe" by Eric Roberson
67. "Softest Lips" by Eric Roberson
68. "U R the One" by Mos Def
69. "The Panties" by Mos Def
70. "Kiss Me on My Neck" by Erykah Badu
71. "I Want You" by Erykah Badu
72. "Collard Greens and Cornbread" by Fantasia
73. "1, 2, 3" by Field Mob
74. "Best Night of My Life" by Jamie Foxx
75. "Yep Dat's Me" by Jamie Foxx
76. "She Got Her Own" by Jamie Foxx and Ne-Yo
77. Andre 3000 (everything)
78. "Raindrops" by Jeremih
79. "Leavin'" by Jesse McCartney
80. "Ordinary People" by John Legend
81. "I Ain't Going Out" by Jon B.
82. "Pretty Girl" by Jon B.
83. "What Goes Around Comes Around" by Justin Timberlake
84. "Runaway" by Kanye West
85. "Where Would I Be" by Kindred Family
86. "Paris Tokyo" by Lupe Fiasco
87. "The Show Goes On" by Lupe Fiasco
88. "Human Nature" by Michael Jackson
89. "Butterflies" by Michael Jackson
90. "Smile" by Justin Bieber

NEWS
1. Reading Clarence Page's column "Page's Page"
2. Reading Jon Yates' "What's Your Problem?"

OBJECTS
1. My birthday card from Dad, who wrote his own entries on the inside about the truth and myths of being 30
2. Mumble stuffed penguin (from "Happy Feet 2")
3. Charlie Brown musical stuffed decoration
4. Elementary school graduation photos of Xakir (super handsome nephew!)

PEOPLE/MANNERISMS
1. People who hold doors for the people behind them
2. Women who think nothing of complimenting other women (no cattiness)
3. Men who know "hello/how are you?" go much further than pick-up lines
4. People who try to learn how to pronounce my name and don't give me unsolicited nicknames
5. People who say "let's go to lunch" and follow through with their plans to do so

POLITICS
1. The troops coming home from Iraq
2. First Lady Michelle Obama's "Let's Move" campaign
3. The Obamas' new family photo

SKIN CARE
1. Aloe vera (everything from first-aid products to lotion)
2. Cocoa butter (everything from lotion to soap)
3. Vaseline cocoa butter lotion
4. Vaseline cocoa butter petroleum jelly
5. Suave cocoa butter with shea
6. Palmer's cocoa butter formula with Vitamin E

TECHNOLOGY
1. AmazonBasics 3-Button USB Wired Mouse
2. Smoke Silicone Skin case for my mp3 player
3. Insignia Pilot mp3 player
4. Kevin Hart's YouTube Channel
5. Following @OchoCinco on Twitter
6. TiVo
7. TiVo's website to record stuff when I'm not at home

TELEVISION
1. "Whitney"
2. "The Vampire Diaries"
3. Timbaland special on E! Entertainment
4. Kathy Griffin's reenactment of her dog eating a used condom (hilarious!)
5. BET Hip Hop performance with Heavy D doing "Nuttin' But Love"
6. Somaya and X.O. scenes on "Love & Hip-Hop"
7. Open mic night with Kyle doing scat music on "Living Single"
8. Rudy meeting Stanley on "The Cosby Show"
9. "The New Adventures of Old Christine"
10. The "you lost to a girl" scene in "The New Adventures of Old Christine"

TRAVEL
1. Maui Mall (walked over there every day for five days)
2. Maui Seaside Hotel
3. West Maui Mountains
4. Riding the Sugar Cane Train in Maui
5. Writing for Chicago Tribune's Taking Off blog
6. O'Hare Airport (never appreciated how great it is until I compared it to LAX)
7. Maroon blankets that American Airlines give you for flying to Hawaii
8. American Airlines for giving me an extra 2 days free of charge after late flight
9. Yotel's Times Square in-airport cabins for overnight sleeping (cool idea, haven't used them but would have that time I had to sleep overnight in LAX, click here for more)
10. Celebrity travel with Sinbad
11. Celebrity travel with Larenz Tate
12. Updating the Trib's Hawaii travel story gallery

TURN-ONS (physical)
1. Goatees
2. Caesar haircuts
3. Khakis/jeans that are loose but sit on the waist
4. Shades of smooth brown complexions (from buttercup to dark chocolate)
5. Clean fingernails
6. Direct eye contact
7. Carefree, white teeth smiles
8. Slim-to-medium muscular build
9. Tall in height (although I've dated guys between 5'8 and 5'11 who were just as attractive)
11. Holding a book

TURN-ONS (mental)
1. Bookworms
2. Voters (in all elections, not just presidential)
3. Direct requests for dates (no b.s.-ing around)
4. Making money only in a legal way
5. Paying bills on time
6. Having your own place, with your name on the lease/mortgage

WEBSITES:
1. SoulVegFolk.com
2. BlackMusicTube.com
3. TeamBeachBody.com
4. AOL's Listening Party
5. AOL Radio
6. Chicago Tribune
7. Luis Gomez's "About Last Night"
8. Twitter
9. Jaehakim.com

WORK
1. Meeting the MoD team (some of the Breaking News team are very entertaining to work with)
2. Working with Colin (He's one of the coolest bosses I've ever had; he means business but he "gets" my personality)
3. Keeping in touch with my old bosses Sonja and Ruth (two other bosses I have nothing but good things to say about and still touch bases with to this day)
4. Going to lunch with Darcel (great person to vent and laugh with)
5. Going to lunch with Fernie (she's always got jokes)
6. Argo Tea Iced Coffee from Charlie to thank me for training him (nice surprise)
7. Training Charlie and Lauren when they were new (MoD team members both really cool people)
8. Trading dog stories with Molly (both of us are hardcore dog lovers)
9. Working with Danielle G. (She's always helpful since the day I started)
10. Working with Mike Z. (If I need a photo, he's got it. One of my favorite folks at the Trib for being so easy to work with.)
11. Chatting with Pam (Easy to work with, even easier to chat about everything from family to why we hate pants with words on the butt)
12. Creating and updating the "Relationship & Sex News Gallery" (Interesting and educational topic that people need to be informed about, especially STIs/STDs)
13. Working with Gilda Squire of Gilda Squire Media Relations again. She is one of the most professional publicists I've met, and I've worked with quite a few publicists.

YOUTUBE VIDEOS
1. "Puppy Christmas"
2. The last two boys on "I Told My Kids I Ate All Their Halloween Candy"
3. Halloween light show to "Party Rock"
4. "Rethink Breast Cancer presents 'Your Man Reminder'"
5. Ian Somerhalder with Aisha Tyler on "The Late Late Show"
6. Tahj Mowry singing John Legend's "Ordinary People"
7. Tahj Mowry singing Michael Jackson's "Human Nature"
 
 
All right, this is my last "Five things I"m digging right now" for 2011 and for good. It's been fun doing these, but I want a new series in the new year. Anyway, here are five things I'm digging right now.

1. BlackMusicTube: I have no idea why I'm just now finding out about this site, but I was trying to find out where to listen to Tyrese's new CD "Open Invitation" after it didn't download correctly on my mp3 player. This site is even better than listening to AOL's Listening Party because there are more CDs to choose from, and I don't have to blow my money on stuff I don't like without listening to it.

2. T-Pain's "Revolver" CD: This is the first CD I've enjoyed straight through from him. I usually just like the singles, but he did a really great job on this one. I still remember seeing him live in concert a couple years ago. I became an all-around fan of his as soon as I saw him live in action and stood up the entire time he was onstage.
 
 
For the life of me, I just can't understand why somebody would complain about how bad their own neighborhood is and then move into another neighborhood to screw that one up, too. If you like being in the hood, stay there! (Yeah, somebody's going to be mad I said that, but I bypassed caring last month when my mail was stolen. I'm still mad about that.) It's aggravating to watch a neighborhood being ruined from folks who could care less while others who do care either have to move or watch their block go straight down the drain.

One thing that I've loved the most about living in the neighborhood I've been in for over seven years was the decrease in ridiculous approaches I got. By approaches, I mean guys walking up to you spitting game that doesn't work on anybody but rats. Yeah, that might sound harsh, but it's the truth. Within this past year, there's been a significant change during my train ride (folks are selling candy to make-believe organizations, opening train doors jumping from car to car, putting their legs up on seats, blasting music without using headphones) and now I'm seeing folks hang out by my nearby el stops and just walk around randomly loitering. One perk of my own building was this beautiful set of flowers and freshly mowed grass. There's no porch. There's no stoop. So it's strictly for show and nobody hangs out. I came home one day to see two teenagers flopped down on the ground in front of the door. Extra tacky! Why would you need to hang out by the door when there's a lakefront and a beach a few minutes away?

Although I preferred peaceful, quiet rides on the el station once it passed the downtown area, and I liked walking down the street with folks getting off of work, walking their dogs and working on their lawns, the neighborhood is changing. And to be honest, I don't care for it. One of the things that I really loved about living on the north side is the diversity and the peace. My mother has joked a few times about how she thinks I'll never move. I told her I genuinely liked the area. I like being able to take a walk without worrying about what neighborhood I'm going through. I like being able to jog at night. I like being able to go to a beach not overcrowded with litter and not being concerned about somebody shooting somebody else on the basketball court.