I like this show "Tough Love" because it points out dating flaws. It's fun to watch and I can usually detect my own flaws (or perks) in the dating world. Anyway, tonight's episode focused on dating deal breakers and some of the stuff the women chose was fascinating because they got to watch a crowd of men stand up or sit down depending on which criteria they met. Some women were left with 8%-10% of the audience because they were so picky.
This made me think of a BlackPlanet account I had a few years ago. I wrote down 35 do's and 35 don'ts about the type of guy I like. Crazy thing is while it was my opinion, I got message after message from guys either complaining about my list or telling me I needed to bend on it. At the time, I didn't understand why anybody who didn't fit my list would even bother contacting me. Don't fit it? Move on. But the most sobering reaction was that I did talk to a guy from BlackPlanet who did fit a bunch of my requirements and had a couple of my cons, dated him, and he turned out to be the absolute worst boyfriend I've ever had. What did that teach me? Narrow down your requirements to things that truly matter to your morals, calm down on the superficial stuff, and don't budge when you realize you two aren't compatible. I learned so much from that relationship, and as much as I cringe about it today, the bonus side was I used that experience and got so much inspiration in writing. While the relationship was the worst, my career was going way better. So sometimes you have to take the good with the bad.
And sometimes the guy who fits your requirements still may be Mr. Wrong (or in my case Mr. DudeYouretheWorstEver). Anywho, with that said, I'm going to use my "Five things I'm digging right now" I missed from last week and this week to list 10 things I dig in guys I've dated/currently date at this very moment. They aren't the same superficial things I listed a few years back and these things weed out a lot of my cons by default. So anyway, here we go:
10 dating deals/requirements I'm digging right now:
This made me think of a BlackPlanet account I had a few years ago. I wrote down 35 do's and 35 don'ts about the type of guy I like. Crazy thing is while it was my opinion, I got message after message from guys either complaining about my list or telling me I needed to bend on it. At the time, I didn't understand why anybody who didn't fit my list would even bother contacting me. Don't fit it? Move on. But the most sobering reaction was that I did talk to a guy from BlackPlanet who did fit a bunch of my requirements and had a couple of my cons, dated him, and he turned out to be the absolute worst boyfriend I've ever had. What did that teach me? Narrow down your requirements to things that truly matter to your morals, calm down on the superficial stuff, and don't budge when you realize you two aren't compatible. I learned so much from that relationship, and as much as I cringe about it today, the bonus side was I used that experience and got so much inspiration in writing. While the relationship was the worst, my career was going way better. So sometimes you have to take the good with the bad.
And sometimes the guy who fits your requirements still may be Mr. Wrong (or in my case Mr. DudeYouretheWorstEver). Anywho, with that said, I'm going to use my "Five things I'm digging right now" I missed from last week and this week to list 10 things I dig in guys I've dated/currently date at this very moment. They aren't the same superficial things I listed a few years back and these things weed out a lot of my cons by default. So anyway, here we go:
10 dating deals/requirements I'm digging right now:
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