I like this show "Tough Love" because it points out dating flaws. It's fun to watch and I can usually detect my own flaws (or perks) in the dating world. Anyway, tonight's episode focused on dating deal breakers and some of the stuff the women chose was fascinating because they got to watch a crowd of men stand up or sit down depending on which criteria they met. Some women were left with 8%-10% of the audience because they were so picky.
This made me think of a BlackPlanet account I had a few years ago. I wrote down 35 do's and 35 don'ts about the type of guy I like. Crazy thing is while it was my opinion, I got message after message from guys either complaining about my list or telling me I needed to bend on it. At the time, I didn't understand why anybody who didn't fit my list would even bother contacting me. Don't fit it? Move on. But the most sobering reaction was that I did talk to a guy from BlackPlanet who did fit a bunch of my requirements and had a couple of my cons, dated him, and he turned out to be the absolute worst boyfriend I've ever had. What did that teach me? Narrow down your requirements to things that truly matter to your morals, calm down on the superficial stuff, and don't budge when you realize you two aren't compatible. I learned so much from that relationship, and as much as I cringe about it today, the bonus side was I used that experience and got so much inspiration in writing. While the relationship was the worst, my career was going way better. So sometimes you have to take the good with the bad.
And sometimes the guy who fits your requirements still may be Mr. Wrong (or in my case Mr. DudeYouretheWorstEver). Anywho, with that said, I'm going to use my "Five things I'm digging right now" I missed from last week and this week to list 10 things I dig in guys I've dated/currently date at this very moment. They aren't the same superficial things I listed a few years back and these things weed out a lot of my cons by default. So anyway, here we go:
10 dating deals/requirements I'm digging right now:
Chicago weather is killing me and I have a cold I'm living in Bally's trying to sweat out. Other than that, life is good. I'm behind on this rundown so I'm combining two weeks of "Five things I'm digging right now." 1. One of the front desk attendants at Bally's:
He's a cutie. I come to work out, but it doesn't hurt that he's usually at the front desk and nice on the eyes. He knows my name without me telling him, and that's always a bonus plus he's a friendly guy. I dig good customer service. 2. Breast cancer video with hot guys:
I first saw this video while updating a Booster Shots blog
for the Trib. I felt super weird watching it at work, but my neighbor behind me had no shame about watching it and showing another co-worker so then I had to see it. I love this video.
Since I was on vacation last week (from Wednesday afternoon through the weekend) and it's been awhile since I had steady days off (for awhile I worked weekends in Breaking News), I've got a whole lot that I'm digging right now so I'm doing my five dig countdown right now.
This will be the five things I'm digging during my vacation:
1. Not worrying about sleep habits: I went to sleep when I wanted to (and turned my house and cell phone off) and woke up when I wanted to. I knew I got the right amount of sleep because I didn't wake up until I was good and ready. The right amount of sleep can leave a person feeling refreshed even if her body clock is used to waking up early.
2. Walking my parents' German Shepherd, Faith: I love their dog. As much as I love my apartment eventually either the location or I am going to have to give. I want a dog, and not one of those little dogs that jump on the couch and bark with a super thug complex (those are the dogs they allow). I want a Marmaduke sized dog--German Shepherd, Labrador Retriever, Doberman Pinscher, Alaskan Husky, that size dog. But in the meantime, I was on the south side for a bit and I dropped by my parents' house to grab the leash and walk their dog around. (Funny enough my father panicked and thought someone stole their dog because he came home before I could return her. In my defense, my car was parked right in front of their house and I left a message on their answering machine but he paid no attention to either. Poor Dad. He looked so relieved to see me walking up to the front gate and telling Faith to stop harassing the mail carrier.)